when you insult someone's hero, a hero they're emotionally invested in because of a personality-related connection, it feels a bit like you're insulting them or their choices - on a subconscious level, and rightly or wrongly.
Bulls-eye!
when you insult someone's hero, a hero they're emotionally invested in because of a personality-related connection, it feels a bit like you're insulting them or their choices - on a subconscious level, and rightly or wrongly.
Pocketplayer wrote:when you insult someone's hero, a hero they're emotionally invested in because of a personality-related connection, it feels a bit like you're insulting them or their choices - on a subconscious level, and rightly or wrongly.
Bulls-eye!
Paul Marangoni wrote:It may be the way in which you deliver your criticism that is raising the ire of people.
Old Pit Guy wrote:it has to be pathological on some level to take a bad opinion from someone else about someone else as a personal insult
electrizer wrote:You said that you had the idea for this thread from the Jojo one, and possibly from my reaction to your comment about his sticks, which is fair enough. However, I've learnt not to criticise people who are very successful and have made their name for themselves through hard work for petty stuff. Especially for petty stuff. Why? Because the person standing next to you can also say "Can you do it better?", and then I'd feel stupid. I also respect people's idiosyncratic choices because it's very often those ones which enable them to come up with something new.
Old Pit Guy wrote:Pocketplayer wrote:when you insult someone's hero, a hero they're emotionally invested in because of a personality-related connection, it feels a bit like you're insulting them or their choices - on a subconscious level, and rightly or wrongly.
Bulls-eye!
Can someone explain this "personality-related connection" to me? I just don't get it. If someone insults something I like, why on earth would the upshot of that be for me to take that personally? For example, there's always the guy who disagrees with conventional wisdom … say they don't like Vinnie Colaiuta's style at all. Would you become upset by that? It's the same for anyone or thing, isn't it? Or is it truly a matter of hero worship? I guess what I'm saying is that I understand this if you're still a juvenile, but as an adult it makes no sense to me. It has to be pathological on some level to take a bad opinion from someone else about someone else as a personal insult.
Old Pit Guy wrote:
Sure. The emotional maturity of some people on the net is about half the age of the net itself...
Old Pit Guy wrote:
Can someone explain this "personality-related connection" to me? I just don't get it. If someone insults something I like, why on earth would the upshot of that be for me to take that personally? For example, there's always the guy who disagrees with conventional wisdom … say they don't like Vinnie Colaiuta's style at all. Would you become upset by that?
Old Pit Guy wrote: It's the same for anyone or thing, isn't it? Or is it truly a matter of hero worship? I guess what I'm saying is that I understand this if you're still a juvenile, but as an adult it makes no sense to me. It has to be pathological on some level to take a bad opinion from someone else about someone else as a personal insult.
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